Why relationships fail.
Very simple. Commitment !!!!!
Those of you who suffered insomnia will recognize this effect. You keep saying yourself that you will try to sleep today and the fear of failing to sleep actually keeps your awake. You organize a picnic or a party with friends and organize stuff but in the pressure of making it an awesome hangout it turns out boring unlike the last one which was so much fun and spontaneous.
Similarly in the early stages of love from the very first step of a simple crush you want to be with her but at times you remind yourself that it could a huge responsibility and you should try not to be with her but eventually you end up being with her. And then when a grand proposal takes place and more than grand marriage takes places it’s a great moment in that particular moment but it is a terrible burden for the rest of your life. You try to stick to the commitment you made and fear the fact that you might fail that cherished moment you once committed to. Then you stop loving and just sacrifice to stick to the commitment which is shown as a great deal in movies but in real life its plain overrated. All sadness is overrated.That fear either causes you eventually break up or live unhappy and forcibly committing to your commitment.
So how can you save your relationship from any fear hovering around it? Just let go. Screw what the world thinks and what laws the world made up. Here is how the conversation with your girlfriend and your future wife should go.
Girl: You have always failed to keep things in order...how the hell do you think you can manage to love me for eternity
Boy: If I have always failed to keep things in order, so instead of committing to love you forever and fail eventually in that I will commit to love you till we get bored of each other to the point of breakup and then fail in that.
Girl: -scratches her head and puts up a dumb look-What if you fail your career
Boy: Leave me then and that moment
Girl: But I love you I want you to be there with you in your hard times
Boy: Then why did you ask such a question in the first place
Girl: hehe ok sorry me a little dumb at times, ok ummm will you let me talk to my boy best friend at times
Boy: I will let you talk to your BFF
Girl: Well what if you suspect me for talking to my ex
Boy: Well I won’t suspect you rather I will let you talk to your ex and even do the bang bang and I will love you still.
Girl: You think I am this cheap, do you think I won’t take my commitments seriously
Boy: Commit to my love and not the norms and ethics society has made. Dont worry I will not tell anyone about anything that you choose to do
Girl: What if I fall in love in the process of dating him and whatever you mentioned
Boy: I am your lover my love. My aim is to keep you happy and free instead of sad and tied up
Girl: But am I not disrespecting your love and your earlier efforts. Am I not simply being a gold digger
Boy: Yeah if you were a gold digger you would be disrespecting me. But otherwise spent quality time with me and tell the truth and you are not.
Girl: Wait you are pervy, you are telling this because you want to have sex with other woman outside of our relationship.. –gasp- YOU PERV!!!!!!!!!
Boy: Really.... Really!!!!!!! I am giving you to be a golden opportunity to be a perv and be free for the rest of your life but instead you choose to waste your youth with just one person all your life. What are you a swan. You are human. One day you will die and before that you will be old and miserable but I will be by your side.
Girl: People will hate us. They will not talk to us. We would be ostracized.
Boy: If they knew in the first place. Or we choose to run away from this city and then again we will die eventually and those people will not be in your death bed.
Girl: you talk death a lot. You worry a lot about future.
Boy: I just worry about death, you worry about the future too that too failing to keep this relationship in the first place.
Girl: so you mean we should go get married
Boy: aren’t we more than married at this moment right now
Girl: FINE I LOVE YOU!!!!
They nuzzle each other too sleep.
