1. Who the “perfect guy/girl” really is.

The “perfect guy/girl” is no longer the one with the best physique or the one who is the most charming/beautiful or the one with his/her magical words or the one who pampers you the most. We have our own definition of "perfect" and more often than not it is way simpler than what it is in our teenage.

2. We CAN be second or even third time lucky.

You can be second and even third time lucky in love and that is OKAY. Your first love does not have to be the forever kind of love always. I know, first love is special, but it doesn't mean that it is for forever. Sometimes, the first time we fall in love, we are really just in love with the idea of love. So, give chance to other people. You'll find your permanent love for sure.

3. Things change, and so do our expectations and priorities.

We undergo a major personality transition in your 20's and that may mean you no longer have the same feelings for the person you were in love with during your teens ( I'm talking about both, boy and girl). The realization may hurt but that is okay. It is better to be honest with yourself than to pretend to feel something you don’t. In the long run this will do you both a world of good!

4. Love takes patience, efforts and work but it should not feel like work.

Sustaining a relationship requires effort but that should not make us feel burdened or stuck in a hard place. Love should not make us challenge or question our goals and values. Most of all, it should not wear us out and make us feel unhappy. If you're unhappy then it's the time to walk away.

5. You are your first love.

Before loving someone else we must learn to love oneself just the way we are. And until we don't understand it, we will not find true love or the satisfaction in it. If we constantly feel undeserving of love because we think that we are not good enough, we will never be happy, no matter how good a person we are.

6. Space is a good thing!

The concept of “giving space” to our partner is a cornerstone of relationship. Being in a relationship with someone does not mean we have to be with them or stalk their activities 24x7. We both need to have our own life as individuals, with a career, with our own friends and some alone time. It is healthy for any relationship and it is important for both of us.

7. Pain is a part of the deal, and it is a good teacher!

It’s okay to get hurt because there are some lessons we just have to learn. And the hard way is the only way to learn them. It makes us wiser and more practical and helps us in seeing things more clearly. We get to know about our own expectations from love and subsequently we feel more sorted in life.

8. Trying to change someone may not be a good idea.

Evolving and making each other better people is a part of the deal in a relationship, but what is not a part is trying to change each other fundamentally. Even if this happens we may end up with a completely different person, whom we may not even feel the same love for. So, don't try to change the person. If you have some problem and complaints, do tell each other and then solve the matter.

9. You have to move on.

When relationship ends, we are totally broken. Moving on is hard. Forgetting them, their words, their promises, is difficult. But we should understand that whatever we had, was a good phase of our life. So it is not important to forget all those. We should cherish those memories instead of being bad mouth with them.

10. Things may not always work out!

Sometimes things just don’t work out and that is completely fine too. Not everything in this world can be explained by logic. We may both be perfectly awesome individuals, yet things may not work out between the two of us.

There is nothing wrong with realizing and learning these things in your twenties. It’s all a part of becoming wiser! So cheer up and smile!