A relationship is the easiest thing to get into, but it’s the most difficult thing to carry on with. Keeping up with a relationship is the simplest complication one has to deal with. People today don’t understand that it is important to make adjustments and compromises in any relationship if one has to be together with someone they really love. Love is selfless and so is the need of being with someone. Forever!
It has become very easy to cheat in a relationship these days. Cheating doesn’t necessarily mean hooking up or flirting with the opposite sex while having a life partner but there are other things which can be more fatal than cheating in a relationship. You may not know but you are cheating your partner already if you are doing the following things:
LYING: To top the list is lying. What is a life partner? Someone you share your life with, someone who has the right to know about you as much as you do because they gradually become a part of you. You might say that you were busy working, hence were unable to take their call whereas in reality you might be busy playing a game or sleeping. You lied and therefore, you cheated.
DELETING: Deleting a message or a call log so that you and your partner don’t develop any misunderstanding among each other because of a third person is cheating. You might feel that a simple gesture by you of deleting a mere message or call log makes no big deal, but it does. You may fight, but you must tell your partner about this. Fights can be forgotten but grudges persist. Always!
AVOIDING: You may feel blue or low and would not want to talk to anyone but avoiding your partner because of that is cheating. You must tell them that you want some time alone and that you are feeling a bit low or something but avoiding them without giving them a reason to do so is just not right. They don’t deserve to be treated that way.
TAKING FOR GRANTED: If you have developed this confidence inside you that there is nothing which will make your partner leave you forever is the biggest fault you’ll ever make because thinking like this results in a taking your partner for granted that may you do whatever, your partner will stick to you always. This is cheating because this hurts.
NO TIME: Not giving enough time to your partner which is a must for a healthy relationship is cheating. Prioritizing other things or people apart from your family is cheating. By time I don’t mean quantity time, I mean quality time which, if not giving will eventually drift you apart.
BACK-BITING: If you are talking about your relationship problems with someone else instead of talking it out with you partner and solving the issue then you are cheating. Nobody can solve your issue better than you two because it’s you who is in a relationship not the one you’re complaining about your partner to.
IGNORING: Ignoring the basic expectation your partner has from you is cheating as feelings come with expectations and there is nothing you can do about it because it’s a human tendency. If you’ll not take care of your partner’s expectations then who else will. If you are ignoring what your partner wants from you and hurting them by making them feel unworthy and useless then you are definitely cheating.
These are some of the things that should be pulled away from your relationship if you don’t want to feel guilty about cheating on your partner or losing the relationship. These things may look petty but they become “Relation Perishers” after some time.
