We all know that in order to look attractive and charming, we must be positive. Positivity is universally attractive and it helps us lift our moods and also the people around us. Positive people are more resilient, daring and encouraging. But in our social life being a negative person will not make us look very attractive. Negativity just like positivity is universally unattractive. It is also one of the factors which stops us in our success as an individual. If your think that you are not so much a sociable person and lack meaningful relationships, it might be because you throw off negative signals to people around you.
The reason why negative people have a hard time being sociable is because people are generally attracted to people who are positive in what they say and do, who are more of an asset than a burden for others. Negativity in the form of criticisms, complaints and harsh remarks can all be signs of your oozing negativity. Negative people are more self-absorbed and pessimistic. They are like vampires who such the energy of other people. When you complain about a particular thing that didn't went your way or that, it makes you look more weak around others and your life a host of problems. People want to communicate good things and sure they are not interested in your problems as they have much of it in their own lives. Moreover, complaints are simply dull. They do not spark any interest and are therefore less likeable. Negativity is also contagious. It's like a plague which spreads from one person to another. If a person is in good high spirits and enjoying their day, a hint of criticism from a person might make them feel negative as well.
The solution to becoming a more sociable, outgoing person is to be positive and lead with positivity. It doesn't mean that you cannot throw a complaint once in a while or just an occasional criticism, but the point is that it should be used sparingly. Only when it becomes excessive then it becomes a problem for you and others. Be open minded, create a feeling of warmness and friendliness around you and be more approachable. This will make people engage with you. When your exhibit positive vibes then all then all the people around you will be more positive. Do not put people down and judge them without proper knowledge.
Some ways in which you can be more positive is using humor. A funny guy who has a good sense of humour is always welcome by any person. Share your thoughts with pinch of humour. People love to laugh and if you are the person making them laugh, then you are definitely the one they want to be with. Also do not take yourself so seriously. Just take a nonchalant approach to life and your social life will be amazing.
