Rick Riordan has said, “Humans see what they want to see.” 

A particular shirt could be plain blue to someone, cobalt to the other, to some azure, admiral to a few other, and lapis to some more. It is almost like ten people sitting around a table talking about a particular player’s skills on field. That is exactly how the world goes. You see others the way you want to see them; others see you the way they want to see you. In these mammoth processes, everyone forgets to see in between.

Let us talk about our first day in college. As freshmen, we all walk in with a lot of reckless bravery added with tinges of hopes and dreams. Most of us, don’t know if any of those will ever come true; and most probably haven’t even given it a thought. Hence, begin all the mingled up sessions-where we talk to new people, choose our persons and become friends. But have we thought that on what grounds are we actually choosing our companions? IT is most of the times based on what they say about us, or rather how they see us? You prefer being called a punk singer and not a classical melodist. Therefore, you would definitely admire the girl who praises your strictly well trained control voice but you wouldn’t talk to her much. However, another girl claims that you should try variations like “punk music”, because your voice has its own individual “blast”. Hence, you at once become friends with her. Reason, she took an attempt to see you the way you want people to see you. There could also be the other instance when you are known for those entire tattoos all over your body; but only one person notices your untouched natural smooth curls. That is when you know where the person’s importance lies. We keep doing this all through our teen years, especially in our young adulthood-when everything seems possible and you are invincible.

However, we cannot always let others take the entire credit of seeing us the way they are seeing us. C.S. Lewis had said, “What you see and what you hear depends a great deal on where you are standing. It also depends on what sort of person you are.”(The Magician’s Nephew).

For a girl, who has grown up in a closely knit family, who have always been there for her and she never had to maintain any kind of secret from them, the world outside her family becomes unknown for her to interpret. She would take the lie for the truth who might lead on to two consequences-either she changes the liar into an honest person, or else her trust is betrayed. On the other hand, a girl who has seen darkness all her life-like murder, molestation, betrayal-will be unable to see the brighter side. Even when a person genuinely likes her or tries to help her, she will somehow manage to dig out any kind of motif…no matter how irrational it is. To be honest, a happy person sees you as a happy being or tries to make you happier. But a sad person will always see your happiness as pretense.

Everyone sees everyone as they wish to, barely caring about reality. But then again, sometimes reality becomes subjective. To a normal man, a schizophrenic is mad. To a schizophrenic, a normal man is blunt. Why? Because their concepts of reality are poles apart. Do we get to choose the right or wrong here? No.  We are what we want ourselves to be, how we want to see ourselves. That is an individual with his/her own opinions, own rules, own concept, and own expressions. It is true, that we know our faces only through the presence of an object of reflection. We do need to put up certain attire, for the requirement to cover both our physical and personal existences. We do need to fit in to the society, and let others see us.  But it is also important to keep in mind that no man has the right to dictate the others thought or creativity, to create or produce someone else’s perceptive. All he can do is to encourage others to reveal themselves, with all their perceptions and emotions, and build a cycle of honesty and confidence amongst his fellow men.